Last night I was watching Suze Orman. She is the financial wizard that you have seen on the Today show. Well, she has her own show where she answers questions from incoming callers. They ask her questions about their finances and how to get out of debt. However, after watching her show it seemed like she was more of a psychologist.

One caller had an issue with their niece who constantly asked them for money. They were tired of always saying yes, feeling guilty, and never having money for themselves. Their niece was completely irresponsible with money and continued to ask for money whenever she was in a jam. Suze told the caller “Start saying no out of love, instead of yes out of fear.”

This phrase completely hit me. In so many ways we all have the same issues. We get so overwhelmed because we continue to say yes to everything that is asked of us. It’s almost like we never actually stop and think about what we are saying yes to. The word “yes” just automatically spits out of our mouths. If we didn’t we fear we would look incompetent, unappreciative and as woman we always fear being too bitchy… right?

Yes, it’s true, I have a difficult time saying no at times. It’s easy to give advice on this topic but when it comes time to take action it can be difficult. I do have to say, however, there is one trick that works for me and maybe it will work for you.

Here it is, are you ready?......I choose to say nothing.

I actually learned it Alcoholics Anonymous/ALONON. You are taught that you have choices. And one of those choices can be to do nothing. That’s right, doing nothing is a choice. It doesn’t mean you’re a slacker or avoiding something. You can simply choose to say or do nothing. Isn’t that awesome??? So if someone asks me to do something and I get that weird feeling in my gut. I simply say, “I am not able to give you a yes or no answer right now, can I get back to you?” Then I sit on it for a while. Genius isn’t it?