On a daily basis I bet you say more than once “I’ll do that later.” It’s so easy to push something off to another day. But what’s wrong with now? I mean, I know there are times when it isn’t a good idea to start a big project. Maybe you have an appointment in less than an hour, or maybe you don’t feel well. Perhaps you need someone to help you. These are all legitimate reasons to save something for later. But think about how often you push something off to later because you simply don’t want to deal with it. In other words, you procrastinate.

I completely understand. I procrastinate all the time. I have even identified why I do. When something is difficult or out of my comfort zone, without fail, I’ll push it off. So it doesn’t surprise me when a client calls on me to help them get their butt in gear. They have identified that organizing is something that is out of their comfort zone. So they want help getting it done. And, as it turns out, when it comes to organizing, I am all about doing it NOW.

Ironically, their tends to be some slight hesitation when I suggest that we tackle a project NOW. My clients want to talk it out, tell me their stories, grab a glass of water, show me what they have accomplished since we last met and so on. But it’s inevitable, once we get started, with-in minutes, their running the show. Their totally into it and can’t be stopped. It’s awesome!

So, I ask again, what’s wrong with now? The answer is.... nothing. You just need a little push.

Recently, I have been toying with podcasting. It’s been quite fun actually. I am officially on ITunes which is wild. I see this as an opportunity to teach organizing principles, tips and resources. I also see it as a great way to educate everyone on what it is that I do as Professional Organizer. So my podcasts aren’t just for those who want to be more organized, but they are great for anyone who wants to become an Organizer. I’ll be doing interviews with industry experts and authors. I even have an interview lined up with Peter Walsh!!!! The author of “Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat” and Professional Organizer on Clean Sweep on TLC. How cool is that?!!

Oh and if you have the time rate my podcast. I need your input. I have also put together a podcast survey so I can really find out who’s listening and what you want. If you fill out the survey by June 1st, you’ll get a copy of my e-book “80 Clutter-Free Gift Ideas” for FREE!

So get to it!

So, I stumbled upon this article about the Swiss and their obsession with time. I had no idea how strict they were. I mean I had heard their trains always run exactly on time. But reading this article made me realize how complicated things can become if time becomes all we think about! Now don’t get me wrong, I think some things are important to be on time for. I am extremely sensitive to meeting times and being on time to business events. But I am not so sensitive when it comes to personal time with friends or family. I kind of see my personal time as an opportunity to NOT think about time. I guess because I am so conscience of time during work hours, I need a break on the weekend. Read on and see for yourself. 

The more I am in this business, the more I know I belong here. You see, I come from a long line of alcoholics. Lucky me, right? Well, I also have a few members of my family that are in recovery and have been for several years. So I learned at a young age about how alcoholism is a family disease. Initially this made no sense to me. Back then I thought that meant it was hereditary. But that’s not what it means. It means everyone in the family contributes to the problem in some way or another. It’s not just the alcoholic that needs help, it’s the entire family that needs help.

I realized recently how I have been enabling my alcoholic father for years. It’s tough to come to that conclusion. To think that little, old, innocent me has contributed to such an awful disease. But it’s true. I have laughed with my father about his problem just to make light of the situation. I have even gone to the liquor store and bought him Jack Daniels.

So what does this have to do with clutter? Well, a lot actually. I get calls frequently from family members who are trying to get help for their loved ones. Don’t get me wrong, making this call is a very kind and thoughtful thing to do. The call comes out of love, I know. But the person who calls neglects to consider how they may be contributing to the problem. I recently had a consultation with a client who told me she gets hand-me-downs from friends and family all the time. She said her friends are always bringing her things that they think she would like. Then they wonder why her home is so full of stuff. I understand this well since I am an enabler myself. But it’s wrong. If you live in a home that is full of clutter and you are convinced it’s your children’s fault, your significant others fault or the maids fault, think again. Yes, you… that’s right, YOU are a part of the problem.

I know, it’s hard to hear and you may think I am totally crazy. I understand that too. I was in denial for many years. But to put it simply, if 4 people are living under the same roof, how can it be the fault of only one person? And perhaps you are at the point where you have given up. You have tried in the past to keep order in your home but it became too much work to maintain because no one else helped around the house. Would you consider it appropriate if a friend of an alcoholic began drinking because they couldn’t get the alcoholic to stop drinking? It is a lot easier than addressing the real problem isn’t it.... because the problem is you.

This weekend I was finally able to pay attention to my home. I moved into my new home in September and I still hadn’t hung pictures or displayed any of my decor. For me, interior design is a very difficult process. I really have to think things through before I hang them or place them around my home. I am also always changing things around.

I realized after decorating my living room how much better I felt when I was done. I think this was for many reasons. 1. I was taking care of unfinished business. It was so nice to complete a project that had been sitting around glaring at me and reminding me I had work to do. 2. The more I surround myself with the things I love, the better I feel. 3. I was focusing on me and my home. It feels good to have no interruptions and the energy to take care of my own needs. Now here is another thought… and this may sound really “philosophical.” I think because the items were sitting stagnant and unused, they lost their life and were sucking the life out of me. Once I put these things to use, they began to have purpose. Having a purpose created meaning. Which ends up making me feel good. 

A client of mine might argue that they ARE surrounding themselves with things they love. They simply love a lot of things. However, a majority of the items are unused and have no purpose. They may argue that they have too many projects to complete and their is no way they will ever get them done. So I ask this… “Is it important to you to create a lot of projects for yourself so you feel you have a purpose?

Do you see where I am going with this?

I come from a long line of alcoholics. I know first hand how the disease of alcohol can ruin a family. I have watched for years how an alcoholic always has a reason for their behavior. They drink because their childhood was terrible. They drink because their boss sucks. They drink because their marriage sucks. An alcoholic, at least the alcoholics I know, will never admit THEY are the problem. That they choose to pick up the glass full of beer and drink it. That they continue to hurt others and abuse substances because they are too afraid to admit they are powerless. For them it has nothing to do with what’s in their glass. It has everything to do with escaping reality.

The same holds true for an out of control pack rat. For them, their clutter piles up because their was a great sale at the mall. They have no time to clean because they have so many pressures. Their significant other is to blame because they always leave things lying around the house. Just like an alcoholic, they too have a difficult time admitting THEY are the problem. instead of looking at themselves, they look at the clutter as the problem. The clutter, just like a drink to an alcoholic, is used as a distraction.

This is, what I consider, dangerous ground. This is where we begin to live in an unrealistic world. We pretend the problem is not their and continuously put it aside because it’s easier than admitting we are the problem. It’s easier to pretend our lives are great and be miserable than it is to live truthfully and be content. It’s easier to toss more paper on top of the piles of paper on the floor. It’s easier to close the door to the guest room and pretend the clutter isn’t there. It’s easier to stuff items in closets before company comes. But don’t dare leave the clutter out for guests to see.

Is any of this sinking in yet?

The other day I went shopping. I needed new makeup because I was totally out… I was really desperate. Anyway, while I was getting gussied up by the sales associate we were having small talk. She asked me what I did for work. I told her that I am a Professional Organizer. She said “No way, I could totally be an Organizer! I have to make sure everything is just right, I am a neat freak!”

It isn’t uncommon for people to say this to me when I tell them what I do. But I feel the need to tell everyone there is so much more to what we do! We don’t just come in and pick up after you. The best way for me to put it is, we are just like a personal trainer. The personal trainer doesn’t do the work for you. They ask questions about your weight, your past, your habits. They put you on a plan and guide you through it. They listen to you as you struggle and offer their expertise. They don’t judge you ever! They act as a supportive hand and give you the push you need to maintain your goal. They may even get really personal with you and dig deep and find out what’s really causing the weight gain.

As a Professional Organizer, we do the exact same thing with your clutter. Although sometimes your weight and clutter are somewhat connected. (No I am not kidding, read “Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat?") So if you are sitting around staring at your clutter thinking to yourself, “I will never get through this alone,” don’t! If you were having issues losing weight and knew you couldn’t tackle that alone, you would call a personal trainer right?  Organizers aren’t always control freaks and whack jobs that make you get rid of everything that means something to you. That’s all I’m sayin.

While eating dinner tonight I was reading yet another article about obtaining work/life balance. I don’t know about you, but I am kinda over it. The tips and suggestions are always the same. Develop a plan, sort, purge prioritize, maintain. Does this advice help anyone? Does everyone believe there is one answer for keeping your work/life balanced? I am not going to lie, in the past I have been known to write articles like this. But now, I am surprised to see this information is still getting thrown at us.

I am going to be honest, I am not totally sure what it might take for everyone reading this to maintain work/life balance. All I can tell you is what I do to keep things in check… I am very realistic about my time, energy and abilities. I guess I am somewhat lucky. At an early age I identified that i would get really cranky, anxious, stressed and/or depressed if my environment wasn’t orderly, if I had too much on my plate or I was getting involved in something way over my head. Avoiding those feelings is a high priority for me. Therefore I keep things simple… VERY SIMPLE. My friends and family will tell you my home is pretty bare. I keep it that way for a reason. I have just enough furniture that I can dust one room in less than 5 minutes. I have just enough clothing so I can do laundry in no more than three loads. I have only a few cosmetics so I can get ready in the morning quickly. These little things make a HUGE difference in my day to day life.

For some, these things may not make a difference. I think it’s important to identify what will reduce the chances that you will get cranky, anxious, stressed or depressed. I have even removed the people in my life that make me feel crappy. That has worked wonders on simplifying my life. 

Lately I have been getting a lot of calls from individuals who want to become Professional Organizers. I personally love talking about what I do. This job is the most rewarding/creative job I have ever had. Organizing wannabes that I haven’t spoken to, allow me to give you a few tips. If you want to pursue a career in this field you will need a few skills. 1. You will need to be patient. Patience is about 90% of our job. Sounds easy doesn’t it? Well, it isn’t. Being patient for a period of time may be easy for everyone. But try doing it for a living… It takes a certain personality to be able to be patient on a consistent basis. 2. You need to be a good listener. I can’t tell you how often I have to read in between the lines to fully understand the positions my clients are in. 3. You need to be non-judgmental.  Our clients are looking for support. The instant they feel judged, a wall will go up and your services can become worthless. 4. You need to be flexible. Our way is not always the best way. I am constantly developing systems for clients that would NEVER make sense to me in my own world. But for them, it works. I have learned that it’s not about me.... ever. 5. You have to be knowledgeable about mental health. learning disabilities, behavioral problems etc. It’s no surprise thousands in the industry were once social workers or therapists. Fortunately for me I just had a crazy family that taught me a lot about addiction, mental illness, and learning disabilities. Half of my training was from the school of hard knocks! 6. You have to be able to set clear boundaries and follow them constantly. Our own health, ethics and morals need to be clear, firm and a first priority at all times. We need to be able to say NO, be assertive and listen to our gut.

Well that is the short of it. I commend anyone going into this industry. It’s a beautiful way to live!

Ok so here is a concept… instead of a “To Do” list, make a “To Done” list. Write down all the things you accomplished today rather than write down the things you need to accomplish. This will give you a positive spin on your daily tasks and you may feel good about it. For example, today I had no client appointments and I was feeling pretty unproductive before I wrote down all the things I did. Here is my “To Done” list for today:

Completed presentation for Wednesday
Cleaned and organized office to prepare for photo shoot
Had interview with Style Weekly
Proofed interview with Style Weekly
Ate lunch with my husband
Dealt with printer problems but got printer fixed!
Went to Staples to purchase ink, ughhhh
Went to shoe repair shop to get shoes fixed
Went to Smoothie King and bought a smoothie
Let the dog out and fed him, twice
Showered and dressed (this morning)
Contacted RVABlogs to be added to the website
Talked to sister and got good news!
Confirmed weekend plans
Set up a time to meet a potential contractor

I did so much already and it’s only 5pm! I feel good about what I have done today. I do have a ton of other things to accomplish but for now I will focus on all that I have done and be happy with that. Give it a try.

More than usual this week I am reminded of the distractions we have in life. In the several sessions I have had with clients this week it seems their loved ones are keeping them from moving forward. Sometimes family and friends simply suck us dry of any energy. They may have an addiction that becomes toxic to the entire family or are disabled or sick. Because their loved ones are in such a bad place, their worlds end up completely turned upside down. As a result, organizing and maintaining their homes is put on the back burner.

For many of us the complications in the lives of our loved ones can effect us many different ways. For my clients, they tend to forget about themselves and their needs. They are completely drained and depleted of any energy. So the house begins to fall apart. I can relate with this first hand. I have a father who depletes me completely of any energy. His drama drives my anxiety level to go up, my mind focuses on things other than what’s important and I begin to lose myself.

I think this is why I am in this business. I see it as my job to remind others that taking care of YOU is the HIGHEST PRIORITY. The problems that your loved ones have are not YOUR problems. It’s difficult and it breaks your heart sometimes to put your needs before others. But the fact of the matter is, you are no good to others if you are depleted of energy and happiness. Your involvement in their drama becomes counterproductive. Your home is a mess, your unhappy, you have no time to enjoy life. So do yourself and your loved ones a favor, focus on YOU.....just for today.

I recently rearranged my entire house and what a difference. I have a home built in the 50’s. It has a second floor that was once an attic. There are two bedrooms upstairs and two bedrooms downstairs. My husband and I used to have our bedroom upstairs and my office downstairs. Mostly because the walk-in closet was upstairs and I wouldn’t have to make our bed whenever we had company. But we decided to move our bedroom downstairs and keep the second floor for my home office.

This small change has really changed my perception for many reasons. Separating my home life from my work life with stairs, for some reason, really allows me to be more mindful of the world I am in. It’s as if when I am upstairs, I am Sara Bereika, Business Owner, Professional Organizer. When I am downstairs I am Sara Bereika, wife to Tim Bereika, mother to Parker, Lara, Libby and Peanut (my pets). I no longer sit in front of the television at night with my computer on my lap. Most of the time it’s because I am just too lazy to go upstairs and get my computer. But I also think it’s because I am more productive upstairs in my office.

I also noticed my husband doesn’t share my office with me anymore. I think he just automatically assumes that the space upstairs is mine. Debbie Bowie from Simply Organized is a Feng Shui expert in Richmond VA. She told me recently that I should not share my office with my husband. I need my own identity and space to be successful. Well I have to admit, I am enjoying not sharing my office with my husband and I do feel more successful. No kidding!

I am now starting to envision my company differently as well. I can see what it will look like in a few years. I can imagine others working in my space with me. For me, I need to SEE it. Like when I go to the gym… I envision myself getting dressed in my gym clothes, going to the gym, working out on the treadmill etc. Once I envision it, I do it!

I didn’t expect such a change in my perception, but it’s great. The funny thing is I do this with my clients all the time. I get them to move their furniture, sit in their chair in a new place, change angles. Recently I was helping a friend in her laundry room.  It’s a tight space with minimal options for shelving and the washer or dryer. I asked her if we could play around a bit and rotate a few things. Then the ideas started flooding in. She got to see her room in a whole different view and was actually able to start making decisions on the things she needed. It sounds so simple but it works. 

Ever consider declaring email bankruptcy? My friend Phil turned me on to this concept.

Apparently people are so overwhelmed by their email they have decided to delete everything in their inbox and start fresh. They simply have no desire, or time, to sort through their email. An email is then sent out to everyone in their email list requesting that if they are waiting on a response to an old email..... resend it! I would love to hear from someone that has actually done this. I am curious to know how effective it was and if it helped you get your inbox in order. I am also curious to know if the people asked to resend their requests were agitated or supportive.

I might get a bit agitated if someone asked me to resend an email because they couldn’t get their act together. But at the same time, email can really become an obstacle. I have worked with clients in the past with over 4000 emails in their inbox. I might have to start recommending this tactic to the serious cases I come across.

This morning while drinking my coffee and having breakfast I was watching the Today Show. They had a segment on animal hoarding. I have to say it was a relief to see. It is a growing problem and I like that it is getting the attention it deserves. The segment was actually a very good representation of people who hoard animals. The woman they focused on was not made out to be a crazy cat lady. She was actually very upset and concerned about her animals. She truly wanted what was best for them. The SPCA was there helping her spay and neuter the animals and allowed her to keep a few of them. I really liked that the SPCA was willing to work with the woman and not condemn her for her love for animals.

Unfortunately there are many cases where the animals are malnourished and neglected. I believe strongly it is not the intent of the owner. However the animals just continue to procreate and the problem becomes out of their control. It is also important to understand that people that do this are not crazy. They may possibly have a compulsive disorder and may have suffered a great loss. Grief can really effect us in many strange ways.

Ironically, I recently met and spoke with Matt Paxton from Clutter Cleaners. He helps people in these severe hoarding situations. He was wonderful and so passionate about his job. He works with local counties and towns to help hoarders keep their homes so they don’t end up on the streets. I strongly recommend calling Matt if you know someone with a hoarding problem. 

You may have noticed a new book on the shelves at Barnes and Noble. It’s written by Peter Walsh and it’s called, “Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat.” Well the title is certainly catchy.

I am currently reading this book and thought I would share my thoughts. Initially the concept of clutter relating to a persons weight has been something I have been seeing myself for a while. It didn’t surprise me that a book like this had come out. It definitely makes sense to me that if your life is unmanageable then why wouldn’t your weight be unmanageable. Peter Walsh has definitely shined a light on a topic that has great value and is no doubt REAL.

When reading the book I am glued. Peter is direct and to the point and he doesn’t sugar coat what he says at all. He refers to people who are overweight as FAT. He acknowledges that he is using this terminology and reminds the reader he is here to keep it real and tell it like it is. He reminds us that our home is a reflection of us. And the inability to keep up our home is keeping us from focusing on ourselves. He drives home the concept that being overweight (or fat) is not about food. It’s about you and how you use your time and if you are living the life you want to live. As a society we no longer value meals with our family. We no longer take the time to plan our meals and spend time friends and our children. As a result, we are eating fast food, take out, and completely overlooking the real problem. Not to mention if our kitchens are disorganized, it’s very unlikely that we would enjoy cooking in them. I am almost finished with the book and I definitely recommend it. As a Professional Organizer I have read just about every organizing book out there. So I read a lot of the same advice on how to organize your closet, your kitchen your pantry etc. But for anyone who is looking for knew insight into their weight and the clutter in their home, this book is a great addition to your library.